Chapter Three Melissa illustrates the benefits of being your own keeper. Obviously, there is a down side as well and she discusses this in some detail. The negatives of being an SB loner perhaps reflect other psychological elements in one's life. She talks about her experience with curved ass and vaginal hooks. Melissa - Having it all For me, the true beauty of self-bondage is that you can have what you want when you want it and not have to rely on anyone else to do it. Obviously, the downside is that you cannot always get what you want, especially if what you want requires another person and there is the loneliness of do-it-yourself s*x, which is, in most cases, not nearly as rewarding as having a partner share it with you. Also, and this is the big one, you cannot expect anyone