WOMAN'S TRAPS. (Alots of women doesn't know the size of their white house)

WOMAN'S TRAPS EPISODE 9

14 𝐅𝐀𝐂𝐓𝐒 𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏𝐒...

1. Sleeping alone is better than sharing your BED with someone who shares a BED with someone else when you are not around...! (Both)

2. Chæāting does not mean you have to kiss, meet or have s£¥ with a third party. Once you find yourself deleting texts and e-mails so that your partner will not see them, you are already there. (Both)

3. If a man is crāzy about you, pray he does not get well, if he is getting well, know that another woman is giving him some tablets. (Women)

4. First love may not d!e, but true love can bury it. (Both)

5. If you still believe "𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 𝐈𝐒 𝐁𝐋𝐈𝐍𝐃" then I know for sure 𝐌𝐀𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐀𝐆𝐄 𝐖𝐈𝐋𝐋 𝐎𝐏𝐄𝐍 𝐈𝐓 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐘𝐎𝐔. (Both)

6. A woman's beautiful face attracts a flirt; A woman's beautiful heart attracts a lover; A woman's beautiful character attracts a man. (Women)

7. Never you fall in love because you are lonely, fall in love because you are ready. (Both)

8. A blessed water is better than a cūrsed fried rice and chicken. A Godly poor man is far much better than an angr¥ rich man in marriage. (Women)

9. I will rather have you stay in your father's house that you are sure of, than pack into a man's house you are not sure of. (Women)

10. Most men base their capacity of manhood and their abilities to fertilize ovaries and produce children. Any man can impregnate a woman. The real deal is HOW MANY MEN

CAN BE THE FATHER TO THEIR CHILDREN, not promoters of ABORTION? (Men)

11. HOLY Wives do not just speak in tongues, they MANAGE their homes, make SUPER meals, raise GODLY kids, and finally they bring out the KING in their man. (Women)

12. When you tend to your garden diligently you will be the one to reap the fruit of the vine thereof. (Both)

13. You can say "sorry" a million times, say "I love you" as much as you want, say whatever you want, but if you are not going to prove that the things you say are true, then do not say anything at all. Because if you cannot show it, your words do not mean a thing.

14. Never you lie in order to satisfy somebody for a moment.

MARRIED MEN, DO YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR BELOVED WIVES DO WITH THEIR MALE TRAINERS AT THOSE GYMS?

There's nothing wrong with a married man allowing his beloved wife to be frequenting a gym for wellness and fitness training. But do you people know what your wives allow their male trainers to do to and on their sacred bodies while at those gyms? I've been a fitness enthusiast for many years. I usually leave the gyms a sad man after seeing how married members misbehave with their male instructors. Sometimes, I even vent my anger on my innocent wife when I arrive back at home as if she was the one I saw misbehaving with another man at the gym.

It has nothing to do with professional fitness training, but enjoying the freedom to be "danced all over" by a different man. What annoys me is the fact that it's actually the married women who encourage their usually younger male trainers to immorally gawk at and seductively touch any part of their bodies. Even where they don't allow their husbands to touch. Kwateniko order girls. 😡

It's different from being handled by a doctor, clinical officer or nurse at a healthcare facility because it's part of the diagnosis and treatment of a medical condition. The women and their secret lovers at the gyms do it for sheer fun. Yes, just for fun. You should go and see how they giggle and chortle like nursery school girls as the guys violate their bodies with glee. What a shame! 😭 You even go back home pretending to be a respectable wife of somebody?

I know some women will try to argue or put up some feeble defence, but it's futile. I've been a gym freak for years now. I've seen it all. In fact, I may be saving your marriage with this little snitch. 😂

I'm challenging married men whose wives have been frequenting these gyms in their absence to engage private investigators and get a shock of their lives. You won't believe your eyes and your ears. You'll be shocked!

Of course, there're decent, self-respecting women who give the trainers strict boundaries on what they can do or say to them and what they consider offensive right from the beginning, but I can count them on one ✋ hand. Few indeed. I salute you, ladies. You are virtuous women. May God bless you and your marriages. 🙏

I also know some male instructors like one in Garden House, Lusaka, who are very respectful to female trainees, especially the married ones. I've seen him subtly or overtly spurn attempts by both married and single female members to entice him into foolish icibeleshi beyond the normal, routine procedures. He is the perfect gentleman. I know there're other male trainers out there who just do a professional job and respect the unmarked boundaries when handling married women. I salute you guys. Muli bantu sana.

But majority are s*x pests who have turned preying on "careless" married women into a hobby, and many have paid dearly for such ungodly behaviour one way or another. If you don't stop now, fate awaits you dear. Lobe!

What I've observed during the many years I've been a gym and dojo enthusiast is that many married women hide behind fitness training at gyms to enjoy 'matrimonial freedom' from their husbands with other men. It's out of social adventurism and a foolish escape from their boring husbands. Open your sleepy eyes, dear "loving" husbands.

Imwe ati "I love my wife" kanshi mungulu. 😡

This is an assignment for investigative journalists. Enrol in at least four different gyms and become a frequent trainee for at least one month while closely observing the interactions between married female members and their male trainers. Then do an investigative article, an expose which must be published in major media outlets. Some marriages will end for sure. I leave it here for now.

HOW TO PREPARE YOUR CHILDREN FOR MARRIAGE

Your children are young today but one day they will be someone's spouse. How do you prepare them for marriage?

marriage

1. Model to them how a good

marriage looks like. Be their reference point so that they grow up saying "I want to have a marriage like that of my parents"

Have you ever gone for a visit in the prison, if no try and go you will see, 90% of the kids are kids without family role -models

2. Do not cause trauma on

your children in the form of insults, mistreatment, favouring one child over the other, emotional strain or neglect as you focus more on material provision.

It is this childhood trauma that affects many adults in marriage

3. Speak well of the other

gender.

If you are a husband, let your son and daughter witness you honouring women by how you talk about your wife and women in general.

If you are a wife, let your son and daughter witness you respecting men by how you talk about your husband and men as a whole

If you abuse your wife or your husband before your kids then you have told them that men need to be abused or humiliated.

4. Avoid cheating on your

spouse.

Nothing confuses children about marriage like them growing in a home suffering from infidelity and its consequences.

Children don't understand, Dad, why are you doing this to mom? Mom, why are you cheating on dad?

5. Work on your issues quickly

as a couple so that you are able to be in the right mental space to parent the children. You cannot parent healthy if you two are damaging each other

6. Before they get to teenagehood, encourage them to be social. Organize parties for them at home to invite their friends, notice good friends in their midst and encourage the bond. Laugh with your children, tease them when you see them growing close to someone, this breaks the ice and makes the children feel "I can talk to mom and dad about my friends". Break the shy bone in your children and give them the confidence to relate with others

7. Teach your children to chat

responsibly and to use gadgets comfortably around you.

Ask your children to type for you some stuff sometimes on the phone.

If your children have a gadget or access to the house phone, chat with them in a warm way so that they become free with you with phones and gadgets. Do this as you monitor who they talk to on chats and what they talk about.

If you notice something uncomfortable, don't over react but with wisdom, speak to your children how to engage with others, if you over react they will hide the truth from you

8. As your children approach teenagehood, remember that this age doesn't need a strict disciplinarian but a mentor parent.

This is not the age to order them around but the age to build a bond with them that they admire to the point they turn to you for counsel.

If you handle this age badly, you might lose your children for life yet this is the age they are starting to form their identity and make future altering decisions.

Teenagers often rebel because they feel misunderstood. Teenage good is a make or break season

9. Encourage your teenage

children to bring their friends home so that you can meet them and have more influence.

Be a cool parent that even your children's friends will wish to have a parent like you

10. Don't be that parent who

everything you say is what

your child should not do

Don't have s*x", "

Don't come at home at this time",

Don't hang around that friend", "Don't talk to me like that". DON'T PARENTS are not effective.

Instead, as you tell your children what they should not do, more so tell them why but most importantly tell them what they should do and how they will benefit from doing right things.

Paint for them the future they will have as a result of doing right

11. Talk to your children about

your romantic life, how you

were before you met their mom or dad, how you two met, how you two dated, what attracted you to each other; children love these stories because it is part of their history.

You being vulnerable also encourages your children to be vulnerable with you.

Your children might disclose they have a crush and you are the best people to confide in about this, for redirection

12. Watch with your children wholesome family movies and comedies, the good ones (not boring) and use those entertaining moments as conversation starters about love, romance and family.

After watching a movie, even if it's a war movie, ask them what they have learnt?

My boy always want to watch aeroplane, each time see him, it's all about aeroplane, then I asked him what interest you about Aeroplane ✈️️✈️️ he plainly told me he wants to be a pilot. his mom rushed to oppose him for saying such.

well, our job is to redirect them not to rebuke them when they plainly told us what inspires them.

13. Pray for your children's

future marriage. Pray for their social life and that they make the right decisions in life

14. If you notice your children

are focusing more on their social life and forgetting to focus on growing themselves; or focusing alot on growing themselves and having a dead social life; encourage your children to balance.

Train them while young to balance because in their marriage, they will need balance.

Do this by helping your children to articulate a vision with questions such as "What do you want to accomplish in life?", "What kind of a person do you feel you deserve?":

15. Don't threaten your adult

children with words such as "Only bring someone to me when you are serious about marriage", you will end up pushing your children away as they try to navigate relationship matters.

You are not supposed to be someone your children report to in fear the last one standing after they have made romantic blunders, but the one who holds their hand as they discover who to choose.

This means your children should feel free to tell you when someone is getting close even before they become an exclusive couple.

This way, your children will turn to you as a guide during courtship and even in marriage

If you notice your adult child is serious about someone, seek to know more about the person from an unbiased view,

find out why your child chose that person, get to bond with the person to the point that your child and the partner will feel free and welcomed by you.

This way, you can counsel them and be their support. If you become tough and cold, your children will start doing things in secret and in hiding, running away from counsel.

This is how most adult children end up in come we stay relationships hiding from their parents because they are confused; they believe they have found love, but are scared to involve their parents.

If you don't counsel your children, you will end up frustrated when they make mistakes

[3/22, 9:14 PM] Olayinka Emmanuel Dada: 17. Prepare them to be ready

for marriage by giving them tips about marriage, being their mentor couple, bonding with the two of them over lunch, encouraging them to go for Pre-marital counselling, gifting them with books or paying for them to attend marriage seminars. Show them support as a couple

18. Maintain a good

relationship with them as a couple before and after the wedding.

Let them know your door is open, not just when they have problems but because you are family. Do not micro-manage them but let them know you are there for them as a couple.

May God give your Children peace

FOR ADULTS ONLY:

1. Marriage flourishes when

the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score. Good marriages don't just happen.They are a product of hard work

2. Your children are watching

you and forming lasting

opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage

3. Husbands:

The reason why other women look attractive is that someone is taking good care of them. The grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly.

Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful

4. When a husband puts his

wife first above everyone and everything except GOD, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.

5. A Successful marriage

doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars, or an expensive car.

You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying

commitment, care, sincere feelings and selfless love and GOD is at the center of it all.

6. Pray for your spouse every

day; in the morning, in the afternoon, and in the evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair.

Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with dua and cover your marriage with the fence and roof of dua.

7. The people you surround

yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

7. The people you surround

yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.

8. One spouse cannot build a

marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it.

Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to

build their marriage

9. Don't take your spouse for

granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation.

Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting losing someone that meant so much to you.

10. Beware of marital advice

from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real-life experiences.

If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial, and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials

11. Dear wife, Don't

underestimate the power of the tongue in your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up.

Don't let the devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence, and aspirations.

Let GOD use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.

12. COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY

TO EVERYTHING. Talk it out, OWN up to your mistakes Help others with theirs.

Note that it is easier to forgive wrongdoing than a lie.

13. Let your Spouse be your

Best friend. Marriage without friendship is like a Bird without wings, how will it fly?

14 RELATIONSHIP RULES THAT SHOULD GUIDE YOUR LIFE

1. Never push a loyal woman to the point where she no longer cares

2. There is a difference between somebody who wants you and somebody who would do anything to keep you. Remember that.

3. Communication and trust are important if you want to secure your spot in someone’s heart.

4. Never fall in love with someone who left his girl for you because he might do the same and leave you for someone else.

5. A real man never gives up on the woman he loves with all his heart, no matter how much it hurts.

6. Don’t play with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of your own.

7. One of the worst mistakes you’ll make is walking away from the person who stood there and waited for you.

8. Just because one man treated you badly doesn’t mean all men will. Get this into your skull.

9. Be careful what you say. A girl remembers everything. They will never the good words have ever said to them but they will remember the bad ones you have ever spoken that is women.

10. When two people care about each other, they will always look for a way to make it work.

11. Love someone who loves you too.

12. So you better stop crying now.

13. Letting go isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign that you’re strong enough to move on.

14. It’s better to be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for the wrong reasons. I sincerely have found out that any person who always sees reasons to give flimsy excuses is a great liar, be far from such a person.

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT BELIEVE ABOUT YOUR WIFE✍🏼✍🏼✍🏼✍🏼

Hello sir, I want to tell you things you must not believe about your wife. Read it sir🌹🌷

1. Don't believe that your wife is a mistake in your life💐🌹

2. Don't believe that you can go far in life by neglecting your wife🌷

3. Don't believe that you can cheat on your wife & go scot-free🌺🌷

4. Don't believe that you did your wife a favour by marrying her🏵️🌸

5. Don't believe that s*x with your wife will destroy your anointing🌻

6. Dont believe that s*x with another woman is better than s*x with your wife🌼💮

7. Don't believe that your wife is your slave🍃🌿

8. Don't believe that your wife's opinion does not count in your life and your family success🍀

9. Don't believe that your wife knows nothing🍂

10.Don't believe that there is something in the body of another woman that is not in the body of your wife except you are looking for your early grave🌾🍁

11. Don't believe your wife has all it takes to raise your children alone

13. Don't believe that the best way to correct your wife is to beat her☀️🌄

14. Don't believe that your wife is so strong that she does not need your help, attention and affection🌇🔥

15. Don't believe that God is not aware of how you are treating your wife🌻🏵️

Have A Blessed And Successful Marriage🙏❤️

THE DANGER OF FORCING LOVE..

It is dangerous to force yourself on someone or marry someone who does not love you. When there is no love in marriage, the wedding ring becomes a little handcuff and your marriage becomes a prison yard instead of a paradise on earth.

A man who does not love a woman during courtship will find it difficult to cherish her after getting married. There are people who will never love you no matter how much you show love to them. That's the reality of life. Love is a choice. Don't force yourself on anyone.

Don't keep fighting to be with someone who isn’t fighting to be with you, you can’t keep holding onto someone who is not holding onto you, you can’t keep planning your future with someone who doesn’t plan theirs with you, you can’t keep running back to someone who is running away from you, you can’t keep loving and caring about someone who shows that they no longer love you, and you can’t keep taking someone as a priority yet they are taking you as their option.

Trust me, it’s a waste of time and energy. No matter how hard and hurting it is, you have to let go and open up a new chapter for your life. Because There are thousand of people who are praying and wishing to spend the rest of their lives with you!

Why kill yourself over someone who thinks he/she is doing you a big favor by being in a relationship with you.

You deserve to be happy, loved and cared for not to be sad all the time, to have sleepless nights, to cry and plead for someone’s love. Think about it.

You have to be in a relationship in which you are loved, celebrated, honored and not tolerated. But until you let go of the wrong person from your life, you can't see the right person for your life.

Sometimes We may love the wrong person, cry for the wrong reasons. But one thing is for sure, mistakes help us to find the right person. Know your place in people's life and act accordingly. It's not pride, it is self respect💕

WHY A WIFE SHOULD ALSO EARN MONEY TOO

No matter how wealthy a husband is, the wife should also earn her own money. Whether through employment, or business. Whether she earns more money than him, she needs to earn her own money for the following reasons...

1."TO TAME THE HUSBAND"

Some Men cheat and feel like they can get away with cheating on a woman who has no financial muscle. These men who cheat know that the woman can do nothing without him and so she will stay home with the child/children regardless of how bad he treats her. The first thing a man who is cheating and destroying a woman does is to financially strangle her. When a man has a wife who is financially capable of standing on her own, he tends to be in his good behavior because he knows she can walk out the moment he cheats, even with the child/children because she is capable. Men rarely mess with empowered women, such a woman can stand up to him. Wives with no finances, put up with all the evil done to them because they have been locked out of outside help and contact; their life is at home, no matter how toxic that home is

2. FOR PERSONAL FULFILLMENT

In as much as men have dreams and feel fulfilled as they pursue them, women have dreams too. The same joy a man feels when providing for his family, building, funding projects; the woman should feel that too. Just like a man, when a woman does her dream job, lives her dreams, earns money and contributes to society; she feels more confident and filled with dignity

3. TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE

A man is great by himself, but with his wife, he is greater; and so is the woman. When both husband and wife combine forces, they have better returns. More money never hurts a family that knows how to use money

4. TO PURSUE HER CAUSES

We all as individuals have a personal cause we want to take care of in society. A woman might feel passionate about the environment, the arts, cyber security, orphans, leadership, fashion, health. When she has her own money that she has earned, after using part of the money in the family and marriage; she can finance those personal causes without begging for her husband to believe in and fund what she is so passionate about. Having her own money empowers her

5. FOR STABILITY

Yes, storms happen in life. The husband can become broke, retrenched, his business can suffer huge losses or even worse, he could get sick or involved in an accident. When the productivity of the husband gets negatively affected or paused, the wife can step in even more and make sure the needs of the family are still met

6. TO MAKE GOOD USE OF HER SKILL

She was taken to good schools; Primary to High School, maybe even University. Perhaps she has a Degree, Masters or PhD. Life has also taught her a lot and she has gained many skills and much wisdom; surely, all that should be put into productive use. Lady, don't waste your life away. Get out there and get involved. Work

7. TO REDUCE OVER-DEPENDENCE ON THE MAN

Instead of her constantly turning to her husband and asking money for hair, fuel, food, clothes, sanitary pads. She can be interdependent. Yes, interdependent because lady, just because you earn your own money doesn't mean you two don't need each other. He is still your husband. You are in this together. The husband feels good when sometimes the wife says "Relax honey, I got this!" Now that is a Queen

8. TO MODEL TO THE CHILDREN

When mom is earning and is successful in her career or business; the son learns that women are not weak and that they can work hard just like men. The daughter learns to believe in herself and dream big dreams. 'If mum can do it, so can I' she thinks

9. TO BE AT PAR WITH HER HUSBAND

Many husbands eventually find their housewife not as challenging, the two drift apart. That is because, as the husband works and earns, he grows in many ways professionally, socially, mentally and physically. But the housewife, all her life is largely about children, and house chores. Conversations with her are not as engaging as with the people outside who are working or in business. The wife should find something challenging to do, even if it means running an online business or commercial blog. As she engages in more than household matters, she grows, just like the husband is growing

10. SHE IS MORE THAN A WIFE AND A MOTHER

A woman is capable of not just being a good wife and mother, but also a good social leader, business person, career woman, public figure, activist, scholar. She can balance it all. She has so much potential. There is more to her than being a wife and mother. She was created with a destiny to realize.

Not for children under 18 years 🔞

A true friend is like a p***s, he stands up for you in times of need. A genuine friend is like a bra, she supports you at all times. A faithful friend is like a condom , he protects you from all harm. A loving friend is like a v****a, she accomodates you fully despite the size of your problem.

⭕1. Kamasutra says : If you suck one n****e, the woman herself offers the other one. And that was the origin of "buy one get one free"!

⭕2. Did you ever notice: everything on a woman's upper body starts with a "B". Blouse, Bra, Bikini, Boobs & lower body with a "P" Peticoat, panties, ... That's origin of "BP"!

⭕3. Before s*x, you help each other get naked. After s*x, you dress only yourself. Moral: In life no one helps you once you're f..ked.

⭕4. Success is like pregnancy. Everybody congratulates you but nobody knows how many times you got f****d to achieve it.

⭕5. Life is like a d**k, sometimes it becomes hard for no reason.

⭕6. Practical thought: A husband is supposed to make his wife's panties wet, not her eyes. A wife is supposed to make her husband's d**k hard, not his life..!

⭕When a lady is pregnant,

all her friends touch her stomach ad say "Congrats!".

But none of them come and touch the man's p***s and say "Well done!".

Moral: Hard work is never appreciated: Only results matter.