Chapter Nine “The aim is to exercise complete and utter control over one’s male partner without finding oneself excluded from the usual social whirl and finding oneself on the end of the dread and maddening pointed finger. “Believe me, if it’s done correctly and with intelligence, then the control you exercise with more severity and less inhibition indoors and away from outside eyes can be exercised just as effectively – if less extensively – when in the company of family, friends and colleagues.” So ran the text of the book that appeared so influential to my wife and her thoughts of how a marriage should be. The moment Terry had finished her call to Lettie I had gone onto Google and entered “Gillian Ormendroyd” as a search. There were twelve pages of entries but, thankfully, it appea