Chapter Twelve
The privacy and confidentiality aspects of SB pose some interesting points for consideration here.
The double standard is very plain:
There are many people who know a great deal about SB and probably practice it themselves, but are still unlikely to admit it.
Carol - The double standard
If you have b**m inclinations like I have had since I was a kid, you soon discover that there is a double standard about the whole subject. Even though you know there are millions of people like you out there, you may have a very hard time finding someone else to play with.
The double standard is just like the one for s*x…everyone pretends they aren't into it and everyone knows that everyone is. For the B&D practitioner, the combination of double standard ("oh, not me") mindset and the
