MAKE HER REGRET LOSING YOU (Make Your Ex To Desperately Want You Back)

HOW TO MAKE HER REGRET LOSING YOU Make her regret breaking up with you and make her want you back. By Folowo Kola' Desire ©2023 Inspire Books. DEDICATION I dedicate this book to all the men out there tirelessly working and investing in themselves and to those that are about to. It's a very brave and essential move for every man. No matter the heartbreak you are facing, I want to let you know you are not alone. You will get through this. 1. WHY SHE LEFT YOU AND WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. It's disrespectful to a man's masculinity if a woman leaves him and starts begging and dying to have her back for a second chance. The average relationship today lasts 3 to 4 months, now why is that? It's because women don't have the ability to bond with a guy. Besides, today's age has encouraged women that it's okay to have different guys and have lots of body counts. They want and crave to be the catch for different dudes and this makes it hard for women to settle down with one guy. When she a stay glued to a guy for lets say 2 to 3 months she will crave for a new magic stick, a new guy, a new shiny toy, and you get to understand that a lot of time when a woman leaves you or she gives you one of those words of "hey this isn't going how i planned" or "we should see other people'' or "i need space" she has a habit of doing that. That's why y'all should look into a woman's past, has she been able to have a long-term relationship? Has she cheated? Because I guarantee you she will have that itch to get with a new guy because she'll get bored with you. A lot of the time it's not because you're not good enough but it's because she needs some new emotion, experience and excitement. This is the average woman and this is why it's tough for her to settle down with one guy and stick with him for a long period of time. Which one hurts the most?: You being blindsided by a punch and not being able to protect yourself, or, a punch you see coming where you are able to block. Exactly, the one that's unexpected. Women spring this breakup on guys. All the time the signs are there but all the time men don't see it coming simply because women can put up a front. When a woman breaks up with you or leaves you, this is what usually happens: 99.9% of the time she gives you good s*x, tells you how handsome you are, you guys even hang out, have dinner, sleep together, then 3 to 4 days later, what will happen is she will send you a text of "i don't think this is going to work out" or "we need some space" or "i think we should go our separate ways". Right away the man panics because it is unexpected. You are like "what happened?, what went wrong?" Because she's your dealer, she gives you all the affection, she gives you what's between her legs, she feels good and then when that dealer says she doesn't want to sell or give you anything anymore you start to wonder what happened, you start to need it badly, then you start to panic. And then the worst thing to do: when a woman catches you off guard you automatically go into a state of panic, you go to a stage of confusion and you want answers and you want to fix it. Correct?. Have been there. You will be like "hey what happened? How can i fix it? And she says she doesn't want to do it and she gives you a cold shoulder and cuts you off. Then you start blowing her up because you are confused, you want answers. Men are based on logic. Women are based on emotions. Whatever happened to her leading to breaking up with you however she wants to split let that be her issue. What you need to focus on is you. Because a lot of these women will pull a test on you, fake it like they don't want to be with you just to see how you'll react or just see if they can get you in line and get different favours of things done. When a woman breaks up with you, when she says she doesn't want you anymore, the wrong thing to do is beg her. The wrong thing to do is get on your knees and plead and say "baby how can we fix this?" Even if you happen to get back in her good grace and fix things, she's already let you know that she doesn't want you. So things would be fine for maybe a week or a month but she won't have the same respect for you and if a woman has no respect for you she can never stay attracted to you. If a woman doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason, you know what to do? You relax first when you get that news because it's going to be so unexpected and this is how women live. What they do is they already have a guy in place. A woman can almost never leave a guy until she has someone better in her view. So she will stick with you, her body will still be there but her mind will be gone. She will still have s*x with you. Have had women tell me they love me and leave 3 weeks later. It happens. This is how women operate and men wonder why and are confused. They look at the text messages that happened a few days ago, all lovey dovey saying how she feels about him. She might buy him gifts or whatever and then show up and leave him. What do you do? You keep quiet, you relax, pack your stuff from her place, leave and send her back her stuff that she has in your place. Never beg. Never cry. Have some respect and dignity for yourself. I know it's tough because you want that s*x and you are trying to fix things. Don't try to fix it because the more you try the more she pulls away. She's made up her mind and you don't want a woman who doesn't want to be with you 100%. What you don't want to do is give up your backbone and self respect for a woman. Even if she's joking and bluffing you still don't want someone like that playing with your emotions. When you dont panic and walk away with dignity, what happens a lot of the time is she will realize that she made a mistake. It happens majority of the time but you must not panic, you must not text her long paragraphs and cry to her or take her somewhere fancy and try to get her in good graces because you have to understand that's what women want. They want to get stuff from you. Walk away as a matter of fact if you really want her back, that's the only thing you can do. But I won't take her back if she comes back. Trust me. She tried to get rid of you because she needs new emotions, a new fun guy but that new guy mostly doesn't care about her, she won't tell you this. You see, women are fantastic at choosing the wrong man. They love chasing the bad boy around but you, the nice guy who treats her well and does too much for her, is annoying her and she wants what she can't have. The new guy won't do her right and will probably dump her and she will be texting you again about a month or two later. Have had women text me 2 years later! Like nothing happened. Women make horrible decisions because they base their decision on how they feel and not what's right. Women are terrible communicators so whatever issue can be happening when they still with you they will say "I don't want to talk to him about it" so when she springs the news on you that she don't want to be with you, it will go like this: She will pull up all the stuffs that happened in the past with you guys, all the stuffs that could have been rectified and corrected, she would pull them back up and you're wondering why she didn't tell you all those years. That's how women operate. They don't want to fix the issue. They want to play the victim and they want you to be the bad guy. This is why when they leave you they will ramble up all the things they didn't like about you and things you did wrong a year ago or days ago and you will be like "can i fix it?". If a woman leaves you, I told you, remain calm. I promise you she's going to regret it. 2. SHE WILL REGRET LOSING YOU AND YOU WILL HAVE THE LAST LAUGH. Before I go any further, I need you to understand that the past is the past and I need you to instill this mindset into your head that YOU ARE A HIGH VALUE MALE, you are a guy that deserves better. Let her go, you deserve better. You can find new chicks. If you are a guy that is leveling up, working to improve yourself, growing yourself, working on your purpose, making more money and a girl from the past wanting to play with you again, why would you allow that? Why will you give her that opportunity? You've leveled up and she doesn't deserve you. She should have stayed by your side. She will regret losing you as long as you continue to make improvements on yourself. When she breaks up with you and you give her a radio silence and remain mysterious and start to level up, that's when she will regret losing you and want you back. Haven't you heard the cat phrase? Women are like cats. What happens if you chase after a cat? The cat is going to run away from you and go hide under a bed or somewhere. But what happens when you are just chilling on the couch and you are minding your business and you are not even thinking about that goddamn cat? That cat comes up to you and is rubbing against your leg and jumps up in your lap and now wants all your attention in the world and that's the same way with women. Give her silence and start the process of self improvement because now she will be watching your stories and pictures. Don't try to make her jealous by posting pictures of you with other women, No, you should remain mysterious. By doing that you will make her mind wonder what you are up to. Now you aint showing her attention and emotion and her mind is wondering "goddamn did i make the right decision? Maybe he's a boss, maybe he's that guy I have been looking for the whole time, maybe he's not as needy as I thought he was' '. I can almost guarantee you will have the last laugh when you put in the work. You are a successful man and now You have a woman that looks way better than she was, a woman that treats you better, one that's feminine and kind and takes care of you. But she's going to be all in her feelings then. She's going to ask for you back. But you don't take this woman back. You are going to let her go through what you went through. The Woman Nature PSYCHOLOGY TRICKS YOU SHOULD PUT IN PLACE 1. Stop idolizing her in your mind The first thing you should do to make her regret dumping you is to remove her from the pedestal you’ve placed her in your mind. She used to be the most important person in your life, but now you have to take that position. No matter how amazing a person she was to you, she no longer sees you the way you see her. She no longer values you the way you value her, she no longer places you in the high position as you place her, As such, you need to land on your own two feet without her presence influencing any of your decisions again. Now, you need to be the center of your world. Stop idolizing her and give yourself all the love you once channeled towards her. Train your mind this way: Anytime you find yourself thinking about her and the positive vibes she brought to your life, think of the negative vibes she brought as well, think of the things she you always want her to do right but didn't do right, think of the disadvantages in her behaviors, think of her imperfections and reasons why you will never want her back into your life. Imagine she's gone forever and not coming back. Dead her from your mind. 2. Stop calling her Bro, the first few months of the breakup are the hardest part, have been there before. And it will take sheer discipline to stay away from someone you still love. During these first weeks, you might lose track of the fact that you’re not together anymore because it’s hard for you to accept it. You will wonder about all the beautiful dates you've been to together. You will wonder about all the times you fought and settle it with kisses and cuddling. All the birthday gifts and presents. You will wonder how something so beautiful can end so suddenly, and you’ll need closure. And most times, you won’t get the closure you need until much later after you’ve moved on. Trying to get answers when your emotions are still too raw can make you act rashly. Instead of trying to make your ex regret losing you, you might end up begging her to take you back. As such, avoid calling her unless it’s extremely necessary. Or at best, don't call her at all. Observe the 'No-Contact Rule' . This rule and its usage will be explained better in the next book. It's observed by training your mind to not come in contact with her for a particular day or week. Might be months depending on the date limit you set. This means there will be no call, sms, social media, email or any means of contacting her for that particular period you set down. But should you reply if she texts you within the No-Contact period? 3. Don't reply to her text The truth is, she might be regretting dumping you too, and she will do her best to get you back. However, if you feel like she’s burnt that bridge with you and there’s no going back, you need to completely avoid her. She will reach out to you via text, and other instant messaging apps. What she does is, she calls you with an unknown number and when you ask who is on the line she replies with "Is that you? Sorry I wanted to call someone else and I think I might have dialed your number by mistake. So how are you?" They always do this to confirm if surely you've moved on or not and the biggest mistake to make is telling her You've missed her and asking her back. Doing this mistake assures her she made the right decision to dump you and will push away even more than before. She might even tell her friends "he said he missed me despite dumping his ass" and they both laugh about it and make fun of you. You don't want that. She will create reasons for you to see, she will even tag you in her posts. However, it’s better if you pretend not to see your ex's posts or engage with her messages. It will be hard, especially if you still have feelings for her, but it will be in your best interest if you don’t reply to the messages. Soon enough, she’ll realize her desperate attempt to get you back isn’t working. This will make her want you badly. Women want men that don't even want them. That's women's nature. 4. Let her see your social media feed Another way to make her rethink dumping you is to have a strong online presence as much as possible. Going out and posting pictures on your social media can be difficult during this period, especially if you are a genuine person who cared a lot for her. However, it is one of the ways you can show her you’ll do excellently without her. But like i said before, this doesn't mean you should be posting pictures of yourself with a girl or different girls. You want to keep her guessing, you don't want to make the new girl known so quickly. Women can sense when you're faking it. As such, post pictures of yourself doing fun things with your buddies, going on a vacation, going to the gym, executing your new money ideas and simply experiencing life with zero worries. When you post positive updates, it will either make her jealous or bitter over not experiencing those everyday moments with you anymore. 5. Avoid her at all cost Stay away from her. If you still feel strongly about your ex-girlfriend, it is best if you don’t see her at all. It might be hard to completely avoid her if you live in the same city or town, but you can limit your run-ins. You knew her for a while, so you will know where you might easily run into her. For the first few weeks of the breakup, you can even ask friends and family members to help you buy your groceries if you cannot stomach the idea of being on the same aisle as her. If you know you’re not yet strong enough to resist begging her to take you back, don’t bother trying to see her. 6. Show up in places she frequents When you feel like you’re a bit more in control of your emotions and getting over her, you may start showing up in places she attends. If you want to be more efficient with your tactics, be deliberate about the places you go to and why. If she is trying similar post-breakup techniques on you, she might be avoiding you too. Don't forget to be in your best look. Trim your beards, work on your posture and physique, be more confident in the way you walk and smile at people. As such, you need to be in her face as much as possible. Let her see how good you are without her. Don’t fabricate your feelings or actions. Instead, constantly act as you normally would so she doesn’t sense part of you is all bravado. 7. Reestablish old connections While in the relationship you probably had to limit how much time you spent with friends and family. Being in a serious relationship meant you had to prioritize your partner over other people, even your close friends. Now that you’re single again, you should consider reconnecting with homies and friends. Spending time with people who know you will shift your focus from your ex-girlfriend to building great memories that will help you forget her faster. Also, you will passively drive regret to her when she becomes aware of your recent actions. 8. Make new friends Apart from reestablishing old connections, you must create new ones. Sometimes, it might be difficult to reconnect with old friends, especially if you ended them because of her. As such, it might even hurt going back to such friends because they remind you of the mistakes you made while dating your ex. They remind you of all the times they ask you to come around for a video game but you refused just to be with the girl. When you are not always around whenever they need you to mingle. Therefore, making new friends would be the best thing to do in this case. Life is too short to live in regrets, and you don’t want your ex to have the prize for destroying your chance of building friendships. When she sees you hanging out with new people, she will regret losing you. 9. Attend new events To make new friends and connections, you need to attend new events. Go to programs, conferences, or hangouts that will allow you to mingle with new people. You won’t only be making your ex jealous of you moving on, but also doing yourself a lot of good. You’ll learn new things, make valuable connections and gradually let go of your hurt. Ensure the events you choose have a direct impact on your career, mental health, or even finances. The most important thing is, are you healing and living life fully? If you’re doing both, you’re probably on the right track. Keep up the good work brother. 10. Build a sexy new body image One of the most popular ways to make your ex regret dumping you is to work on your body. Yes! It is so cliché that it would be obvious to her, it works anyways. This method would be even more effective if she used to complain about your body. However, don’t lose weight just because you want to impress or make her jealous. You should shed weight because you want to be healthier, and of course sexier. Keeping fit post-breakup should be more to your benefit than trying to impress your ex. This way, you achieve your body goals effortlessly. Who knows? Another hot chick may be crushing on you. 11. Work on a longtime idea Post-breakup is similar to an old person looking back on their life to weigh the achievements against losses. After your ex broke up with you, you might first break up, but you’ll also have a lot to think about. One of the ways to get through this period without reaching out to your ex is to start a new project based on a longtime idea you’ve always had. You may or may not experience massive success through this one idea, but the process alone will give you something to be proud of. Maybe you've been wanting to start graphic design or dabble into fashion design, you may as well get to it. Your ex will most likely regret seeing you doing amazing things without her. 12. Improve your fashion sense The idea of making her long for you because you look better isn’t restricted to women. Men can also make their exes’ mouths water just because their fashion sense improved. You should consider switching up your looks and closet after your ex dumps you. If you used to only be a denim and plaid shirt kinda guy, introduce three-piece suits or leather outfits in your wardrobe. Ensure you wear them to places she is sure to see you or upload dazzling you in those amazing outfits online. If she thought you were an annoying boyfriend because of your poor dress sense, she will start to wonder if she shouldn’t have tried more to make the relationship work. 13. Don’t entertain thoughts from the ex's perspective As said earlier, it is easy to still have leftovers of your ex's mindset influencing your thoughts and decisions. However, it is very much possible to remove yourself from her thought pattern. When you find yourself entertaining thoughts from her perspective, quickly reroute your ideas. Of course, she isn’t a terrible person, but you need to protect yourself at the early post-breakup stage. When you’ve sufficiently healed, you will find it easier making fun of how you were a sucker for the way she did things. Before then, protect yourself as much as possible by relying on different approaches to doing things. 14. Develop old and new hobbies If you had abandoned some fun activities just so you could focus on your relationship, this is the time to pick them up again. If you cannot engage in the same hobbies you shared with her, you should try forming new ones. When your ex's habits have melded into yours, it’s time to set new ones. You can start by creating new habits that involve activities only you find interesting, not the ones influenced by her interests. For example, she will expect to see you at the same tennis club on the same days both of you used to go. However, you’ve probably switched to fishing with new buddies she doesn’t know, and that will throw her off. 15. Avoid talking about her too often Staying in the same city or sharing mutual friends with your ex can make moving on a bit challenging. However, it isn’t impossible to avoid talking about her if you’re conscious about it. Whenever the conversation moves towards topics related to her, gloss over your response and steer the conversation away from her. You will find yourself making references to things that remind you of her; it’s normal. However, try to limit such references so it will be easier to create new memories. If you find yourself in her presence, it’s even more paramount that you make fewer references to her. 16. Create new plans that don’t involve her If the relationship was very serious and you saw your ex-girlfriend as your future partner, it would hurt even more to forget her. Now that your plans with her are in the dust, you need to create new plans that don’t include her. Plan your vacation, retirement, and other things without her in the picture. When she knows that you’re canceling your plans together, she’ll probably reconsider her decision. Hopefully, you don’t have joint assets. Joint assets make things even more complicated, especially if you weren’t her legal partner. 17. Get emotional support from reliable friends One thing you shouldn’t underestimate is the power of external support during this period. Most people expect men to be all strong and macho, but that’s just a toxic expectation. If the breakup is hard on you, lean on the support of people who’ve made themselves available to help you. She might misconstrue the kind of help your female friends are offering, and that’s simply a plus in your plans to make her regret dumping you. 18. Don’t start a rebound relationship immediately after your breakup Rebound relationships happen when you’re looking for an alternative outlet for your emotions. While it isn’t bad to have a rebound partner, it isn’t the best thing to do. Not only is it not fair to your rebound partner, but it is also a temporary fix that might make you feel worse after the fact. As such, even if you’ll be entering a new relationship, give it time. 19. Try dating new women The most obvious way to make your ex hate dumping you is to start dating again. Your other actions might still give her hope that you’re not yet over her, but the moment you start seeing other women, she will realize she’s lost you. Take your time but when you’re ready to date again, you’ll know. FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS How do I make her regret breaking up with me? Ignoring her after she broke up with you is one effective way to make her regret breaking up with you. Will she ever regret dumping me? Yes, she might regret letting you go if you were amazing to her. She'll miss you if you treated her like a queen and she was the one who took advantage of you. What do you do when your ex-girlfriend dumps you? You mourn the loss of the good thing you had, then try to move on, no matter how long it takes. How do you know if your ex regrets losing you? She will try to restore communication between both of you. She’ll show up in your house and other places so you don’t forget her. How do I show my ex I don't care anymore? When you don’t give any outward jealous reaction the way you used to when guys stared at her in your relationship, she will know you’re over her. In Conclusion The idea that a guy shouldn’t bother making his ex hate dumping him isn’t right. If a woman can put so much effort into becoming a better person her ex will desire post-breakup, a guy should be able to do the same. .