loved and not loved

LOVED BUT NOT LOVED By Comr. Uzoukwu Chibuzo Audu. In past I was involved in this relationship that taught me the lesson of my life. I was in this relationship with this beautiful damsel, she was much younger than I, and I was ten years her senior, to us it was no issue. My dad had given my mom same age gap. And to me it was how a relationship age gap that should lead to marriage should be. Considering our African mentality; every man is supposed to be the senior to his lady; here age was not a number, but a reality. Gradually we were began to build this near perfect compactable relationship. We had this perfect flow. She was highly sociable, approachable and admired by all. We easily bounded. And like a ‘roller coaster’ off we went, we were always in the company of each other, we were a “Match Made In Heaven”. And in no time everyone around started calling us couple. We were really amazing to behold, i longed everyday to be with her. My eyes were always Focused on the clock, waiting for close of work, so i can return home to her. At intervals of thirty to one hour we called each other to know how the other person was fairing when we were not together. We had regular video calls on w******p and constantly charted on Facebook. We shared this beautiful memories together, I still have lots of pictures of us together in my phone. I was beginning to believe that it would last forever. I am a salesman working for a multi national marketing firm. She was a final year student in the state owned university here and sometimes she markets petty trades to make extra cash which i encouraged. We were comfortable together. In my own assertion. I was looking forward to seeing us as couple, as our relationship continued to deepen and our love grew. I began introducing her to friends and family members as my wife to be. Which she will usually beam her face with smiles. And to everyone they were genuine smiles and a sign of approval by her. To many I introduced her to, they expressed likeness towards her and gave us there blessings, While few reserved their recommendations about her. To all this, I never gave no care nor concern, as long as we were together, the world can go South ward. Nothing was wrong with anything she does. I paid no attention to her character, actions, attitude and behavior. Love had completely blinded me. I changed jobs so as to afford me more time to be with her, and while all this was going on, she was constantly surfing the internet or charting with friends on social media and stuffs like tik Tok and snapshot. All this meant nothing to me. It was a free world. (And just to let you know, I and her meet here on social media; f*******: to be precise.) And with time her phone began to ring more often than before. I should have seen this as a red flag but still I was still blinded by love. And all this had happen between a period of six months. When I started noticing some changes in her, like seeing pictures of events which she had attended recently without my knowledge or informing me about it, or when she would forgetfully tell me about parties and activities which she had attended with some of her friends while we were both together. And funny enough this s where times when she would tell me she was going to the hostel for one issue or another, or going to visit her auntie on weekends. I could no longer bear it, I had to muster the courage and asked her what was the problem? Our relationship had clocked six months when I got a letter from the office that I had been transferred and needs to resume work at my new base. The news was a surprise us and after much crying and hugging I eventually relocated to my new base. On getting over here, I rented an apartment, which was conducive enough for us as beginners. It was a one bed room semi detached apartment with spacious kitchenette. This adventure had drained almost all of my life savings, due to the urgency of my transfer, as I still had a running bill in my apartment at my former base and now I have to pay for a fresh apartment. I had minor issue with my transfer documentation on getting here which delayed my commencement. We had agreed for her to come over here after her final exams and probably perform her national youth service assignment her with me. It was not quite two weeks I resumed here this changes in her behavior became too obvious. While life showed me it's true colour,she was on the other hand playing a good game of ignoring my phone calls and before long it became less regular, and even to a point of disappearing completely. My charts began to delay longer and video calls needed special permission before we can engage. Yet most of this times she was online but ignored me even when it's was obvious she was seeing my charts. So when I asked her what the problem was?